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End of year meme (mid-year)

1. What did you do this year that you'd never done before?
Own a web domain
Have my own business
Meet Russian backpackers
Buy a champagne stopper
Use Airtasker

Argue in the WAIRC
Participate in a medical trial
Cross land borders by bus in SE Asia
Lose 4kg in a week
Lose 2kg in a day
Cuddle an elephant
Use Siri
See a dead body (assuming that’s really Ho Chi Minh)
Eat caviar

2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for 2017?
2017 Resolutions:
2017:
1. Fly Qantas instead of Virgin. The commute to the new Virgin Terminal just isn’t worth it. (So far so good - and Qantas is better on long-haul Australia flights)
2. Read Freedom, The Girl Who Played With Fire, The Prophet, Breakfast at Tiffany's and The Cuckoo's Calling (half way through)
3. Read two books on the BBC Top 100 list (3/4 through Gone With The Wind and have started Lolita)
4. Give my car a thorough professional cleaning inside and out (voucher bought)
5. See five films on the IMDB Top 250 list and All-Time 500 list (Alien, The Elephant Man, The Treasure of the Sierra Madre, The Battle of Algiers, Stand by Me, The Best Years of Our Lives, The Grapes of Wrath)
6. Work out how my French Twist and other clips should be used
7. Finish watching all of The L Word


3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
No.

4. Did anyone close to you die?
My friend Jesse.

5. What countries did you visit?
Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand, Myanmar, Laos, Hong Kong

6. What would you like to have in the rest of 2017 that you lacked in the first half of 2017?
Stability, consistency and good luck.

7. What dates from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
March 7 - the day I started my SE Asia trip;
June 17, the day I had to fly to Brisbane for Mum's medical emergency.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I don't think I have any achievements. So many things are a work in progress.

9. What was your biggest failure?
Getting people to meet me halfway.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Killer bout of gastro thanks to my bus trip from Sihanoukville to Bangkok which came back in Chiang Mai and saw me lose 4kg in a week and 2kg in a day.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
Where do I start? Got some great souvenirs at the night market in Chiang Mai. Pretty much everything I bought on that trip was great (hair clips, pashminas etc)

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

My HCMC tailor. Thank you for repairing my clothes at a fraction of the price that Australian tailors charge.

Ryan, my old ANU mate. He keeps telling me to "get out of Australia and don't look back". We had a great time when we caught up in Bangkok and I realised that he's right.

Divine Maria. Apart from the fact she let me stay in her luxury penthouse in Hong Kong and spoiled me rotten in Bangkok, she goes down in history for being the first person to ask me in my 40s if I was seeing anyone. Nobody else has asked me that.

The Women's AFL players. You are all fabulous and inspire us.

Alyssa Milano. Trump's presidency is really bringing out the best in her twitter account.

Roger Federer. Closer to 40 than 30 and you just keep better!

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Aung San Suu Kyi. You have been my hero since 1995. Your rejection of the ethnic cleansing of the Rohingya and refusal to allow UN staff visas to investigate have seriously altered my opinion of you - one I fear which will never recover.

14. Where did most of your money go?
My SE Asia trip – especially on visas.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
My SE Asia trip.
An ex-student of mine getting engaged. She's gay and wants me to come to the wedding. My first gay wedding!!!

16. What song will always remind you of this year?
Girl, You Have No Faith In Medicine, The White Stripes

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
I. happier or sadder? Happier.
ii. thinner or fatter? Thinner.
iii. richer or poorer? Richer.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Avoiding bad luck.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Chasing up other people’s mistakes. Seriously – at this point it’s about 50% of my life!

20. How did you spend Christmas?

Ask me in six months.

21. What LJ users did you meet for the first time?
Most of my friends have abandoned their LJs.

22. Did you fall in love in 2017?
No.

23. How many one-night stands?
Zero.

24. What was your favourite TV program?
Feud

Trial and Error
When We Rise

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
Midland registry.

26. What was the best book you read?
I liked The Wangs vs The World, Chasing The Scream and The Girl Who Played With Fire.

27. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Laotian pop music at 3am does not a happy piajurin make.

28. What did you want and get?
My own web business

29. What did you want and not get?
Visit U Thant’s house. It’s only open three days a week.
Default judgments.

30. What was your favourite film of this year?
Hidden Figures, Jasper Jones and Christine.

31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Ask me next week.

32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
People acting with honour and integrity. Don’t tell me you are going to help me or want to catch up etc and then do nothing!

33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2017?

Whatever I can get my hands on that isn’t packed away.

34. What kept you sane?
Easter in Bangkok with Divine Maria
Emails from Ryan and Celine

35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
The same four. Bernie, Christoph, Cillian and Justin.

36. What political issue stirred you the most?
The Rohingya in Myanmar. It's horrid the Burmese government refuses to acknowledge this.

37. Who did you miss?
My HK students and my overseas friends.

38. Who was the best new person you met?
I met some interesting people on my trip but no permanent person in my life stands out. Have been keeping to myself.

39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned this year.
Not burning bridges can produce beneficial long-term results.
One hour with my HK students does more for my self-esteem than a year's worth of therapy.
Spending money on experiences produces more happiness than spending money on possessions.
Oh and apparently, Saigon did not fall - the "Liberation Army" "liberated" it.

40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

“Getting angry doesn’t solve anything”, Grace Kelly (Mika)

“What the hell am I doing here? I don’t belong here”, Creep (Radiohead)

Five personally significant events of 2017:
1. Visiting three countries I had never been to before;

2. Starting my own business;
3. Backpacking in my 40s;


Five things I want to do in the rest of 2017:
1. Get a mock up of my invention;
2. Continue to develop my temper control skills;
3. Develop my next web business;

Life lessons

In my 20s, I decided that the meaning of life was, “Life is short. Do as much as you possibly can without hurting anyone or breaking the law”.

In my 30s, I decided. “If you don’t like something about your life, change it. If you can’t change it, then change the way you look at it”.

I wonder what lesson I will learn in my 40s. Based on my last overseas trip, I imagine it will have something to do with gratitude.

Since returning, I keep muttering to myself, “getting angry doesn’t solve anything”. I also learned on the trip that I am happier overseas than I am in Australia and that I am at more at ease around my Aussie friends who live overseas (thank you Ryan and Maria) than around my friends in Australia.

Maybe it'll be something profound about how life is all luck – just like the sunscreen song ;) 

Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes

Something interesting happened to me this morning.

For those of you who were with me when I had the old blog, today is the 10th anniversary of the “Arc de Triomphe incident”.

Those in the know, know that this was a traumatic and deeply humiliating incident for me. As time went by I realised that apart from the hurt and humiliation I suffered, I realised that I was robbed of a chance for closure. I always vowed that on the 10th anniversary I would email X to tell him how I really felt and the consequences of his actions that day.

So, this morning, after attending my WAIRC hearing, I sat down at my computer, clicked on the message section of his Facebook profile and prepared to type. And then something happened:

I simply could not bring myself to do it.

All I could think was, “That’s not you anymore. A lot has happened since then. You’re different now. Better. You’ve argued in front of a Supreme Court judge and this morning you fought for yourself at the WAIRC. You have overcome a lot of obstacles and made it through. You’re simply not that person anymore”.

I discovered that I no longer cared.

In other words, “You’ve come a long way baby”.

It’s good to know that I am developing as a person and making progress. I feel good.

Then again, maybe some of this is related to a conversation I had with him late last year:

X: Did I tell you that I am getting married and am gonna have a kid?
Me: No. Congratulations. When are you getting married?
X: March.
Me: When is the baby due?
X: March.
Me (mentally): Errrrrr….

Ten years later

If I could, I would send what I am about to write to every person on the planet who is burdened with the beast of depression.

2007 was the worst year of my life. I knew within the first five minutes it wasn’t going to be good. The ship I was on was docked in Ushuaia, after our trip to Antarctica. I wrote my wishes for that year on a piece of paper and threw it towards the water. Twice. Both times the wind blew it back over my shoulder. I knew then that my wishes had been rejected.

2007. The year where everything that could have gone wrong, did. Even the things that couldn’t have gone wrong did. The year where things I hadn’t even considered happening, happened. My computer died, making my law degree difficult, I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism, which came with a side serving of depression, my weight ballooned, I was given false hope by employers, my assessments were always scheduled in the same week on the same day and of course the Arc de Triomphe incident. At one point, I thought it would never end and questioned if I would live to see the end of such a dreadful, never-ending year.

2007 was also the year Facebook took off with a bang. At one point, I looked up a blast from my past which made things even worse. He looked great and he looked happy, posting pictures of himself and his pretty, petite girlfriend, who is now his wife. My self-esteem was poor to say the least.

Now it is 2017. Ten years later.

Things are different. Better. I finished my degree, completed my Graduate Diploma in Legal Practice – with Distinction, as well as my Masters of Laws, also with Distinction. I am 25 kg lighter than I was and am more attractive at 42 than I was at 32. I completed a Master of Translation Studies and was rewarded with a scholarship which I have managed to keep topped up. I feel accomplished, confident, good about myself. I feel excited and am making plans. Big plans for 2017.

As for the blast from my past. He looked better ten years ago than he does now (IMHO) and I am told that he lost his job and that his marriage is not as good as it could be to the pretty, petite girl. Ten years ago, I felt inferior to him when I saw his pictures. Now it’s the reverse.

To all those people who are suffering, read this and remember: It does get better! Things will get better. Nothing is permanent. Suffering does end – take it from one who has been there, done that.

Take it from me: Never, ever, ever, ever, EVER give up! You will get there in the end. 

2017

Welcome to 2017: The year of piajurin

End of year meme

1. What did you do this year that you'd never done before?
Write a “**** it – I have nothing to lose” job application;
Vote for The Arts Party;
File a police report;
File a missing persons report;
Celebrate “Mean Girls Day” by seeing the double feature of Mean Girls and Clueless at the cinema;
Work with someone who doesn’t remember the 20th century;
Be approached by a Channel 7 news reporter for a story;
Stay at the Richardson Hotel;
Go to work without wearing a bra;
Drink two Frozen Cokes in a day (my throat needed numbing);

2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for 2017?
2016:
1. Limit my use of exclamation marks;
2. Resurrect my dwindling Japanese;
3. Watch SBS French news;
4. Watch five Best Picture Academy Award winners (The Great Ziegfeld, Spotlight, Cimarron, Going My Way, The Greatest Show on Earth, The Broadway Melody, Wings, Cavalcade, You Can’t Take It With You, The Life of Emile Zola, A Man For All Seasons, Lord of the Rings: Return of the King)
5. Replace “what the hell” with “what the devil”. I heard it in a 1960s film and decided it sounds more stylish.
6. Finish my Diploma of Modern Languages in Russian.
7. Watch five films from the IMDB Top 250 (Room, The Revenant, Star Wars Episode VII, Deadpool, V for Vendetta, The Secret In Their Eyes, Blade Runner, Hachi A Dog’s Tale, Lord of the Rings trilogy, Arrival)

2017:
1. Fly Qantas instead of Virgin. The commute to the new Virgin Terminal just isn’t worth it.
2. Read Freedom, The Girl Who Played With Fire, The Prophet, Breakfast at Tiffany's and The Silkworm
3. Read two books on the BBC Top 100 list
4. Give my car a thorough professional cleaning inside and out
5. See five films on the IMDB Top 250 list and All-Time 500 list
6. Work out how my French Twist and other clips should be used
7. Finish watching all of The L Word

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
No.

4. Did anyone close to you die?
No.

5. What countries did you visit?
None

6. What would you like to have in 2017 that you lacked in 2016?
More stamps in my passport.

7. What dates from 2016 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
July 25. Worst. Day. Ever.

October 26. Got three phone calls / emails regarding potential jobs before noon. That has never happened before.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Based on everything that happened to people in 2016, surviving it. Oh and getting several default judgments at the Magistrates Court.

9. What was your biggest failure?
Obtaining help when I needed it and getting people to answer my emails.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Had a viral infection that lasted three weeks in November. Took me ages to recover and I haven’t been that ill with a respiratory problem since 2004.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
Half price Premium tickets for Garbage in concert.

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
Soph and Simon: Thank you for finding me a tinted replacement window for my car.

Katie Ledecky and Simone Biles: Girl power!

All those people who said they would have voted for the ASXP had I been running.

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
Rodrigo Duterte – This guy is seriously nuts!
Lynn & Brown Lawyers – Avoid these people. Not only did they go majorly over the costs agreement but the advice they gave me was wrong, wrong, wrong!
Ex-flatmate: Next time you are going to lie to someone about throwing out their stuff and attempt to extort money from them, don’t do it by text message. Idiot!
Australian sports stars: Get over yourselves. You’re not that special.
The ASXP: The WA branch has worked very hard and how do you reward us? By putting a Vic candidate up for a WA seat.
WA Police – They could win a gold medal for laziness when it came to investigating my break in. I practically had to twist their arms to get them to view the CCTV footage.
Prick who broke into my car – Who smashes a window to steal a teapot and sheets? Dumbarse.

14. Where did most of your money go?
My court case.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
When my engineer friends told me that my web business and invention ideas were plausible and could make me money.

16. What song will always remind you of this year?
It’s The End Of The World As We Know It – REM.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
I. happier or sadder? Happier
ii. thinner or fatter? Same
iii. richer or poorer? Richer.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Travelling

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Being lied to and led on and deceived.
Chasing up other people’s mistakes.

20. How did you spend Christmas?
Watched Suicide Squad and Florence Foster Jenkins, read Truly Madly Guilty and cursed the people I was supposed to pet sit for who never got back to me.

21. What LJ users did you meet for the first time?
Most of my friends have abandoned their LJs.

22. Did you fall in love in 2016?
No. I am not attracted to Australian men.

23. How many one-night stands?
Zero.

24. What was your favourite TV program?
11.22.63.
Agatha Raisin was quite entertaining too.

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
Yes.

26. What was the best book you read?
Big Little Lies, Liane Moriarty
The Children Act, Ian McEwan

27. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Morning Harvey. They were the intro band for The Dandy Warhols. I thought they were good.

28. What did you want and get?
Half price tickets to see Garbage in concert.

29. What did you want and not get?
A Democrat President-Elect.
Normal haemoglobin levels – missed out on a $2700 medical trial as a result.

30. What was your favourite film of this year?
Ghostbusters and Bad Moms – nice to see Hollywood realising that women can carry films.

31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Got a $70 book voucher at work, went to the premiere of Ghostbusters and had a weekend at the Richardson hotel.

32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Right wing defeat.

33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2016?
Fabulous!

34. What kept you sane?
Walking.

35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Christoph Waltz, Cillian Murphy, Bernie Sanders and Justin Trudeau.

36. What political issue stirred you the most?
Women’s Issues – if the flag bearers at the Opening and Closing ceremonies of the Olympics were women and the bulk of our gold medal winners were women, why are we not entitled to the same pay as men?

37. Who did you miss?
My overseas friends.

38. Who was the best new person you met?
Pi - my adorable Godson.

Vik my accountant is pretty cool too. He seemed amazed I was single and would have guessed my age as “35…tops”.

39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned this year.
Never underestimate the stupidity levels of the average person.
It’s amazing how much progress you can make in a dispute with the sentence, “I have drafted court papers – we will have to get a third party to decide”.

40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
“You should never argue with a crazy man”, Movin’ Out, Billy Joel

Five personally significant events of 2016:
1. Starting my translation business
2. Starting my will business
3. Walking away from law
4. Walking away from bad people
5. Prioritising happiness at the expense of success instead of the other way around.

Five things I want to do in 2017:
Live in Europe
Work in Europe
Travel to Vietnam, Rangoon and Laos
Finalise my invention
Ignite my web businesses

Be the change

In 2012, one week before my International Dispute Resolution essay for my Master of Laws was due, I had the following conversation with Alastair Irvine [id.au]:

Him: You probably won’t believe me, but you’re much happier the week before you’ve got an assignment due.
Me: No in fact that doesn’t surprise me at all. I have places to be, things to do and deadlines to meet. I have a purpose. That makes me happy.

I am not the kind of person who can sit around and do nothing. It drives me crazy. I am happiest when I am busy, have things to do and plans to make and projects. This is why I am really looking forward to 2017.

My Master of Translation Studies is finished and I am halfway through creating my translation business. I also have two other start up projects which I am told have potential not only to work but to make me money. One involves making wills, the other involving a process that will make gift giving much easier.

In addition, I also have an idea for an invention. It’s not new, it just changes the way something most people do and makes it better and easier. It came to me while working at my law firm. This is big for me as I am not an “invention” person, but I think this has great potential. It scares me and simultaneously excites me.

I think 2017 is going to be great for me.  By focusing on my business ideas I get to do to things that are important for me:


  1. I get to be busy and focused and brimming with ideas; and

  2. I get to do things on my terms.

Wish me luck!

End of year meme (mid-year)

1.     What did you do this year that you'd never done before?
Wear winter clothes in Perth in February
March in Sydney Mardi Gras
Become a Godmother
Deliberately drive on the wrong side of the road in peak hour (If you know a better way to get on to Scarborough Beach Road from Huntriss then do let me know)
Argue a case in front of a Supreme Court judge
Hire a Barrister
See Cats, the musical
Know someone who trended on Twitter
Use a menstrual cup (now I know why women scream during childbirth)
Attend a meditation workshop
Have someone cite me in their thesis
Stay in Fremantle Prison
Issue someone with an ultimatum


2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for 2016?
2016:
1. Limit my use of exclamation marks; (Yes)
2. Resurrect my dwindling Japanese; (No)
3. Watch SBS French news; (I work so can't watch it)
4. Watch five Best Picture Academy Award winners (The Great Ziegfeld, Spotlight, Cimarron)
5. Replace “what the hell” with “what the devil”. I heard it in a 1960s film and decided it sounds more stylish. (Yes)
6. Finish my Diploma of Modern Languages in Russian. (One semester to go!)
7. Watch five films from the IMDB Top 250 (Room, The Revenant, Star Wars Episode VII, Deadpool, V for Vendetta, The Secret In Their Eyes, Blade Runner)

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Yes – hence the Godmother.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

No but I have it on good authority that it’s only a matter of time.

5. What countries did you visit?
Australia. We are indeed a big country with a lot to offer.

6. What would you like to have in the rest of 2016 that you lacked in the first half of 2016?
More concrete travel plans.

7. What dates from 2016 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
February 22 - day I started work.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Finding a good job at a good firm where people aren’t crazy.

9. What was your biggest failure?
Finding permanent accommodation. They let me out of my lease after four weeks and I am still very suspicious.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
What was diagnosed as a bowel infection was later diagnosed as an inflamed intestine. Kept me home for two weeks.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
So many things. I got some great Charlie Brown dresses at Myer in Brisbane for $69 as they were on sale from 11am to 3pm;

Got a great Portmans dress at an op shop in Freo for $5, which gets a lot of compliments;
Black velvet jacket from Vinnie’s in Freo
A fabulous red jacket for $10 at a market in Surry Hills

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
Lois - She adopted a little girl this year. I am so proud of her!

Ricky Muir - I owe this man a huge apology. When he first started I thought, "Oh geez" but he now seems more progressive than the Greens.

Ingdirect and Cashrewards. Thank you for the cash back and saving me substantial money.

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Virgin Australia. They lost my hair dryer when I came back from Sydney and refuse to reimburse me for it.

IMDB Top 250 voters. Your obsession with comic book heroes means we are losing good films like Duck Soup and The Philadelphia Story to movies like Deadpool and Captain America.

My aunt Denise. She owns a vacant 5-bedroom house at the top of Attadale. I asked if I could live there. She said no. You may be my Godmother and a good catholic but you're a lousy human being.


14. Where did most of your money go?
Topping up my savings account from New Caledonia and surgery and also a new account to save for my trip to Cuba.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Having money and not having to go to Centrelink!

16. What song will always remind you of this year?
Should I Stay Or Should I Go? The Clash. The American primaries and Brexit make this a relevant song.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
I. happier or sadder? Happier
ii. thinner or fatter? Same
iii. richer or poorer? Richer.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Swimming. This time though it’s not my fault – I can’t find pools that enforce swimming lane rules.


Using a menstrual cup. They are so much better. Why did I wait 25 years to do this?

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Using tampons and pads

20. How did you spend Christmas?

N/A

21. What LJ users did you meet for the first time?
Most of my friends have abandoned their LJs.

22. Did you fall in love in 2016?
Does Bernie Sanders count?

23. How many one-night stands?
Zero.

24. What was your favourite TV program?
American Crime Story was interesting. Sarah Paulson gave a great performance as Marcia Clark. The sexism she endured was vile!

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
Donald Trump.

26. What was the best book you read?

So many!
Go Set A Watchman – Harper Lee
The Interpretation of Murder
The Girl on the Train

27. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Nothing and nobody

28. What did you want and get?
Tickets to see Fatboy Slim

Mark Rylance to win the Oscar for Best Supporting Actor
A job!

29. What did you want and not get?
Bernie Sanders as the Democrat Party candidate

30. What was your favourite film of this year?
Eye In The Sky and Finding Dory

31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Ask me in two weeks

32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
A normal upstairs neighbour.

33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2016?
Affordable but stylish.

34. What kept you sane?


35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Christoph Waltz, Cillian Murphy and Justin Trudeau.


I also think I have a bit of a crush on Bernie Sanders.

36. What political issue stirred you the most?
Women’s Issues – amazing how few parties in Australia focus on them.

37. Who did you miss?
My overseas friends.

38. Who was the best new person you met?
My barrister Stuart was pretty cool, but I have only spent three hours in his company so I could be wrong.

39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned this year.
Respect the difference between making a choice and making a decision.

40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
Oh lord, please don't let me be misunderstood.

Five personally significant events of 2016:
1. Finding and keeping law work.
2.

Five things I want to do in 2016:
1. Get to Cuba
2. Find a good place to live.

Opinion sought

I celebrated February 29th by going to see Star War: The Force Awakens.

I am not a Star Wars fan. I didn't see the first one until I was 22. I didn't see Empire and Jedi until two years ago as part of a "May the 4th" movie marathon. I have risked life and limb by telling Star Wars fans that I think the dialogue is terrible.

I was therefore surprised that I enjoyed Episode 7.

However, even though I am an amateur Star Wars watcher, there is one thing I just don't buy.

***SPOILER ALERT***

I don't know why I put that there since everyone has seen it by now, but good manners cost nothing.

So, Han Solo, a man who has spent his life encountering the scum of the universe, double crossing them and making deals with them, a man who is "streetwise" or in this case "galaxy wise" to say the least, and who has helped defeat the Empire, just stands there willingly and lets his son stab him?

Yeah. That does not make one iota of sense to me.

Please explain.